Tuesday, January 13, 2009


Since we started back on our school work last week, I have been having troubles with Hunter. He has been argumentative with his sisters, procrastinating on his school work, and pretends that he has to go to the bathroom every 15 minutes. When I catch him on it, he says that he really has to go to the bathroom. I have caught him playing when he is supposedly going to the bathroom. Sometimes he is even chasing his little sister around the house. He does nothing but complain about his school work and how he "hates" to do it. It is very frustrating to me. Because it is frustrating to me, I've had to talk to my husband about it to see what we can do. He says to punish him for not doing his work. How can I do that? How can I have more patience with him? We have threatened to send him to public school. If we were living in the next town over, he would have no problem with going. However since we are living here, he is worried that he won't know anyone and he will still have the same problems there. I don't want to send him to public school. I want him to have pleasant days of school and to enjoy his education. He's only 9 and in the 3rd grade. He should be able to enjoy learning. However he's not and it's getting more difficult to get him to finish his work in a timely manner.

I have been so frustrated with it lately that I have been getting headaches. I don't know what to do about it. I am hoping that someone, somewhere, may have an answer. I am feeling that I am about to give up on him and I don't want to do that.

I was hoping our new year would start off great. So far it has been nothing but trouble.


Happy Elf Mom (Christine) said...

Hey. I don't have "the answer," but I have a suggestion you're free to pitch if it doesn't work.

First, have you prayed about this yet? I know I sound like a nag, but I can't tell you how often I've flown off the handle or flipped out and TOTALLY FORGOTTEN THIS STEP. So. Take it from a hypocrite that you wanna do this step first. :p


Reward sheets. I give the children three "chances" (talking out of turn or whatever) and on the fourth, they've lost their star for the day. Earn enough stars and you have a sheet. I'm figuring a sheet is 16 days, but memorizing a Bible verse also gets a star and so does good church behaviour. One sheet is about $2.50worth of merchandise. SO after three sheets, I let them have one of the Bionicles or after two sheets they can "buy" a little Bionicle or after one sheet it's small toys and stuff like that.

Another suggestion:

What does he want to do? If he's bound and determined to go to ps. then you can homeschool all you want and he won't learn.

Then again, does he realize that public school means homework on top of school time? Does he know that he HAS to be there on time and he has to ask permission to go potty and everything else?

Maybe a field trip could be arranged, OR could you ask a third grade teacher in the district for her schedule? Maybe Hunter would "enjoy" living by this schedule for a while. Have some potty passes ready, and detention happens for those caught abusing privileges or sassing off. Stand way across the room, give the lesson only once and when he asks for help, sorry, you're helping one of the 27 other kids in the class.

I've gotten to this point a few times where I've dreaded the day, or the whole week. Once it was a particularly boring science unit. We lived through, but it was tough. :]

Sheri said...

I am with Mrs. C on reward charts, and such. I will have to come back and give ya some more ideas-but for now-I gave ya an award, head over to my blog: www.scrapandlapbooks.blogspot.com to claim your award.
and Hang in there sistah-:-)

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